"love is not a fight but it's something worth fighting for"
So, in Part I of 'Saying I'm Sorry', we spoke about marriage and we also spoke about saying 'I'm sorry,' in that particular context. It was seen that we first say 'sorry' to Our Father, who knows us. I'd like to say, Thank the LORD that He STILL LOVES US even though He knows the very depths and darkness of our hearts. Isn't that reason ALONE to apologize to HIM FIRST? If anything, He should be the only One,
….but we still have reality to deal with. =) =)
We also spoke about how your wife or husband may be upset with you for something you did, and so the next step is apologizing to them. With that said, it will take courage, but saying 'I'm sorry' in that aspect, is the first step to reconciling with them.
Other Steps Include:
1. As you are now clean before God, go BACK to God, to ask for the next steps. HE will tell you what your next steps are. Sit before Him and wait for His answer as you are restoring your position or your marriage.
2. I would encourage you to watch the movie 'Fireproof' (2008), directed by Alex Kendrick. I highly recommend it as its worth your time. I believe that this is an investment that can truly impact your life. You can also buy 'The Love Dare Book', which you'll also see is in association with the movie. Go through the book and be intentional about it. This situation is of course between you and God, so see as fit, and according to the Holy Spirit's guidance.
3. Go out and love your wife, your children, whom ever has been hurt from this.
Also see what the needed steps are. What practical steps do you ensure that it doesn't happen again? Will you be chatting with so-and-so online? Ask yourself these questions, journal these out maybe. It's good to be prepared and ready to give an answer to not only yourself, but your significant other to show that you have thought about how to improve. As said before, overall, it will be more of a concerted effort for the resolution, but doing your part is also a start, and a very big start.
4. As you do this, you may think that nothing is happening or they don't believe you've 'changed that fast', well, that's where God plays HIS part. TRUST Him to change their hearts and to bless you both as you continue this process of moving on. God has so much in store for you guys.
Don't give up. You'll get there, just don't give up.
6. It's worth fighting for. Remember your ministry. Remember your start. Remember the good times. Remember why you fell in love in the first place. God's got it. Just trust in Him.
I once heard someone say, "the end of me is the beginning of God". I know that you may be sick of this, you're tied down and don't have the time…but it's in these moments when we throw our hands up in the air that God takes us up into His arms, and gives us wings to fly instead. So stand strong and never give up, it's worth fighting for. Marriage is a gift from God. <3
Remember, if it were the other way round in your situation, you'd be worth fighting for.
Never give up.
I woke up the other day, feeling led to write down the next topic for the the blog. I felt that there was a stronghold on marriages in a particular city. I pray that strongholds may be broken in that city, in Jesus' Name (I also encourage you to pray for marriages all around the world in Jesus Name). The other point was the general sense of those who were failing to say, 'I'm Sorry'.
I pondered these things, and asked the Lord what He wanted me to write, but at first only got the notion that He wanted to say that people need to start saying 'sorry' (as we know, it's often more of a pride element when we don't acknowledge what we've done and then apologize).
Later on in the day, I thought of the song, 'Sorry Seems To Be The Hardest Word' by Blue & Elton John.
The lyrics say:
"What do I do to make you want me?
What have I got to do to be heard?
What do I say when it's all over?
And sorry seems to be the hardest word"
Sometimes we don't need to do a whole lot of STUFF to impress someone (Emphasis on sometimes. Let's apply things to our own situations instead! Lol!). Or sometimes we can try to "figure it out" or fix it on our own. Instead, sorry, would be what is needed in that circumstance, at least as a genuine start. The actions and "figuring it out" can follow after. Let me tell you a little secret: collaborative effort is always best. Never try to do it on your own as if the person doesn't exist and will exist when you figure it all out. Just say sorry and then with God's help, move on to the next step. =)
Now, you might be saying, "Grr! So what if that person doesn't want to hear what I have to say!?"
The song identifies with that aspect, noting:
"It's sad, so sad
Why can't we talk it over?"
As said above, sometimes when we've hurt someone and want to say 'sorry', or have said 'sorry', they might not want to hear it or want to talk about it any more because of the hurt. Instead they may need time, and want to see actions.
"So what do I do in the mean time? Sing this sad song?" :) No. But thank God for Redemption. Thank God it starts with Him. =) Like David, who humbled himself and went to God: "Against you, you only, have I sinned…"-Psalm 51:4 …we go to that place, and talk with God.
Side Note: Once we are forgiven, it is FINISHED. In other words, God remembers it no more. That means, any time after that, if you're still reminded of that sin, then its either our flesh, or the devil. Solutions? Well, there are many, but we take steps to make sure it doesn't come to our mind over and over by using Scripture, and also taking practical steps (more on this in Part II, coming soon!).
Remember that we are promised once and for all that: "there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus" -Romans 8:1
Thus, just like David did in his redemption process, GET UP AND WALK.
Continue and sin no more by the Power of the Holy Spirit.
God's with you all the way. Don't give up.
Joshua 8: 1-2 "Then the Lord said to Joshua, "Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. Take the whole army with you, and go up and attack Ai. For I have delivered into your hands the king of Ai, his people, his city and his land. You shall do to Ai and its king as you did to Jericho and its king, except that you may carry off their plunder and livestock for yourselves. Set an ambush behind the city." (Emphasis mine).
Have you ever wanted to do something and the Lord says to you, 'wait'. Or, 'not yet'?
A while ago, I wrote about how during the wait, God's doing something significant that we may not be seeing with our natural eye.
Sometimes we may think that because it's taking so long or because we don't see what we are thinking it should be like, that its reason to settle for something less, but we all know that that's not what God wants for our lives, He wants to give us His best. We know that there are many reasons He asks us to wait, but because we are His child, waiting is for our benefit, and it creates opportunity for a new thing in our lives, and all to the glory of God. Amen.
I had the opportunity to read this verse in the Book of Joshua.
This verse became important after reading Chapters 6 and 7, which I recommend you read as well to get the full context.
Briefly, in Chapters 6 and 7, the Lord had told Joshua that he had delivered Jericho into his hands (i.e. given him the city). He was then commanded to march around the city once with all the armed men, for 6 days. On the 7th day, they were to march around the city 7 times. In Joshua 6:18 the Lord says to Joshua to keep away from the devoted things as it would bring trouble. Later in Chapter 7 we see that a guy named Achan had hopped on along and taken that which was devoted, when it wasn't the time to.
We know it wasn't the time to take these ''good things'' from the land yet, as in Chapter 8, from what the Lord says to Joshua after He tells him to go into another city: "Do not be afraid, do not be discouraged.... You shall do to Ai and its kind as you did to Jericho (the place of the previous battle), except that you may carry off their plunder and livestock for yourselves..." (Joshua 8:1-2).
The New Living Translation says, "But this time you may keep the plunder and livestock for yourselves...."
But this time...
This time. The event of going into another city had occurred before, but it was this time, it was thee time. This particular time. Outside of that time was the wrong time.
Waiting. It can be a tough one eh?
We all make mistakes and may do something we're not supposed to at the appointed time. Even if you're a leader, you're going to make mistakes. It's just about being real with yourself and not allowing yourself or others put you on an untouchable pedestal. It's about how we handle it after the mistake that counts, i.e. did we learn something, did we grow from it? Are we getting closer to God now because of it? Are we now ready to do what God's asking us to do? etc.
I've already told you about how I started this whole website and went ahead of God, put all these sections to the website and I was all super jolly about it, only to have Him ask me to only start with one blog post. *Ouch* :) I smile about it now, but yes it was majorly humbling at the time. I can only boast in the Lord: but since then, I've never had to sit down and think: "what is the next blog post going to be?" but more of waiting on God until He told me what to say next; He's had the lead. It's a waiting process as well because I would sometimes see other sites doing 'more' stuff or had more sections, but had to wait on God's voice, and then proceed. Not only that, but we don't know other people's story or journey as they did their work, so it's unfair to judge by what the human eye can see. Amen. :)
God's timing is so perfect, when you see it happening, you'll be so content that you'll forget about past experiences or wonder why you went ahead before! He has it all under control.
Waiting on God teaches us to submit to Him, and to let Him take the lead.
This time, the Israelites had the joy (hallelujah!) of carrying the plunder and livestock, as the Lord said they could do. You too, will be able to enjoy what He's asking you to do. He had opened the door to enjoy this wonderful gift.
Let's remember that when God says 'not yet', it's 'not yet'. When He says 'go', 'go'. There's a time for everything :)
So here are the questions: Is the Lord telling you to go? Is He telling you that NOW is the right time? Enter the doors to which He is telling you to go. Why don't you have a nice heart to heart with the Lord tonight? He's with you all the way, as He's leading you to go where you wants you to go. Amen!
At my church we are studying the Book of Nehemiah, which is quite interesting to say the least!
Something struck out to me as I re-read Chapter 5.
Chapter 5 is about Nehemiah trying to help the poor. Long story short, Nehemiah calls a meeting to accuse the nobles and officials because they were exacting usury from their own countrymen. Fortunately the meeting is successful and an agreement to stop the usury is reached. Nehemiah later says that he was appointed to be governor in the Land of Judah but neither he nor his brothers ate the food allotted to the governor. He says, however, the earlier governors who preceded him had placed a heavy burden on the people and took pieces of silver from them as well as their daily food and wine. The former governors' assistants had also taken advantage of the people, but out of reverence of God, Nehemiah did not act like that.
What stood out to me were verses 15-16, which said, "But the earlier governors – those proceeding me – placed a heavy burden on the people and took forty shekels of silver from [the Jews ]and in addition to food and wine. Their assignments also lorded it over the people. But out of reverence of God I did not act like that. Instead, I devoted myself to the work of this wall. All my men were assembled there for the work; we did not acquire any land" (Emphasis mine).
Nehemiah chose not to do the things that were around him.
Fam, at times we will be faced with challenges were it seems like EVERYONE is doing "it" ("it" meaning, anything like usury, debauchery, malice, drinking, clubbing, etc.)
But we won't have to do it because we are different.
We're Christ's :)
It reminded me of Daniel 3, where King Nebuchadnezzar made a ninety-feet-tall image of gold, and summoned all the people to bow down to it when they heard a sound (Daniel 3:5). The people bowed, but Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael, and Azariah chose not to bow down with the others because they feared God.
At times, we will be faced with an opportunity were EVERYONE (or it seems like everyone, or it just might be everyone in your group or city) is going clubbing or doing whatever, but you won't be going clubbing, because you'll be choosing to be faithful to God.
Of course it's hard to see "a lot people doing these things", and as cliché as it may sound, it's not easy, but it will be worth it.
I remember when I first got Saved (when I first became a Christian), I was still clubbing until God asked me to surrender that part of my life to Him. I had made so many friends from all this going out, but my Abba said to me one night, "Tawana, you have one foot and hand in the world, and the other hand and foot on Me."
I was stuck and didn't know what to say. I even spoke to someone about this, asked them for prayer about what God was asking me to do (I'll explain later why it really wasn't about clubbing, and why I took it to wise counsel for prayer ;-)
God was faithful and reminded me a few times before I surrendered and wanted Him instead of this "stuff!"
You see, what was underneath was more of a fear of "is He going to catch me when I let go of these things?" I didn't know what to expect and that's where the fear came from.
God wanted me to know that I could FULLY trust Him, and that I had to unfold my tightly gripped fingers, and hold onto Him instead. And surely He was faithful, and most of all, He caught me.
As I surrendered to Him, the journey of going deeper in the Bible began.
As I started spending time with God, I'd go back to my room after class and read and study the Bible. The Lord was faithful to me through it all because He would speak to me as I read His Word. I started off using a Bible plan on YouVersion, which was great because it had a nice commentary to accompany the study, and as a new Christian I really really needed that! :)
Even though it seemed like "everyone" else was out "having a good time" with these things, He wanted to tell me that He loved me and that I didn't need all these types of things. With His faithfulness, spending time with Him was priceless compared to the things I had oh so "missed out on." Did temptations come? Of course! But we keep going regardless of every fiery dart that comes our way.
Even though people around me were still clubbing, I didn't do that because I wanted to honor God.
He wanted me to honor Him with my life so that He could honor me. He wanted me to be His.
Now, I won't sit here and say it was so easy and perfect and la la la...it wasn't, but it was worth it.
I did lose "friends", but really, as the quotation marks express, were they really friends if they weren't excited to see me read the Bible or stop the things that drew me away from God? True friends stayed as I grew deeper in the Lord, and new ones came along as well.
Whatever we give up on for the sake of Christ, Our Greatest Friend replaces with even greater.
"With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible." -Matthew 19:26
My point is this: Serving God is going to come with costs.
Losing others will come as well, but that's because God created us to be holy and consecrated for His use, not Holy and "available for all extra things around us". For His use, because we are His.
It may sound like: "wow, I will be restricted from xyz" etc, but I pray for grace and revelation for us to always look at it this way:
1. We're human, so we will have random moments of "oh...If only I were doing xyz or going to xyz", or moments of "this is hard work!" So I pray for grace to take us by storm when these moments come.
2. To always remember that we are not doing this alone. Jesus promised that
He would ask the Father, and He would give us another Advocate, who will never leave us - John 14:16.
And that when the Father sends the Advocate as Jesus' representative--that is, the Holy Spirit--We will be taught everything, and will be reminded of everything Jesus has told us. - John 14:26.
So we're not alone in this.
3. Remember whose you are and who your Daddy is.
He is the King of Kings, Lord of Lord, the Great Redeemer, Provider, El-Shaddai....and if He is all these things, as a daughter or son, we become heirs, princesses, princes, a royal priesthood and so forth!
Side Note: This just reminds me of Proverbs 31 where King Lamuel's mother tells him that it is not for kings to drink wine and rulers to crave beer because they might drink and forget what the law says. She wanted to say that because he was of king value, and didn't need to be involved in things that could potentially bring his value down! When one is a king (small k), they don't have to do these things, because they are precious and would now have a different focus in life. That's why King Lemuel's mother is saying: "give beer to those who are perishing, wine to those who are in anguish; let them drink and forget their poverty and remember their misery no more" (Proverbs 31:6). Her advice to her son was, "Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute. Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the poor and needy" (verse 8-9): Now this was King Lamuel's royal duty, not the former.
We, as royal priesthoods, should also seek the best, and to "do the best" in terms of being empowered by Our Abba, Your Daddy, who is in Heaven, who Has said that "everything is yours."
Fam, remember this: It may not be easy for us in our own strength, but it's easy for God. He wants to see us holy, consecrated, and set aside, all for His glory! RememberHe loves you very much <3
Always In Jesus Name,
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Romans 5:8 says, "He demonstrates His own love for us in this: while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us."
Definition of 'demonstrate': To clearly show something. To prove. To give evidence.
Christ gave evidence.
It is to show or express by one's own actions. To take part in a public demonstration.
Colossians 2: 13-15 says, "When you were dead in your sins and in the uncircumcision of your sinful nature, God made you alive with Christ. He forgave us all our sins, having canceled the written code, with its regulations, that was against us and that stood opposed to us; He took it away nailing it to the cross. And having disarmed the powers and authorities, He made a public spectacle of them, triumphing over them by the cross."
A few things came to mind when I read these verses.
1. Wow, He proved it. He proved it. He proved His love by dying for ME, for YOU. He did it.
How many times, as humans, do we want proof of something? We always want someone to prove something, to show it by their actions; we say, "if you loved me you would..." well, Christ did that, and more, and He won't stop at anything to show you how much He loves you.
The verse before says, "very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die." Romans 5:7 (NIV)
It says a person might possibly or even perhaps dare to die for a good person, which means maybe, which means uncertainty, and possibly they will..but not necessarily. haha, super jokes. oh and that person they die for has to be GOOD. LOL So, by the time this person THINKS about whether you are WORTH dying for and losing THEIR own life for you, you would probably be dead and they'd like say, "oh well, you're dead now....guess you made this decision easier!" LOL.
Humans can't save you.
But "while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." Romans 5:8
My point is this:
To the point of sweating blood, Christ was in anguish in the Garden of Gethsemane. He asked God to take the cup from Him, but then He then said "yet not My will but Yours be done" (Luke 22:42), and He did it. Pulling away His "emotions", He did it.
We desire that day to day. I hear women say, "I want a guy who would sacrifice for me!" but here He is...He did it all for you.
I hear men say, "yeah man, I want someone who keeps it real..." Yeah, Christ kept it real, and I'll show you how:
2. Colossians 2:15 says He made a public spectacle of them. "Them", are your enemies man...There is nothing hidden here. He came out, did the fight, and He made sure that it was all done publicly, even if He Himself was humiliated in the process. Just for you....man :) People who are going to hate you, blame you, etc, they've all been taken cared of.
Friend, don't let your faith-walk be in shame or let the enemy fill you with fear. Like it says in verse 14, Christ NAILED (pinned it and BAM it's done!) it to the cross, He nailed it, and it's done. It's over and done with. Whatever comes out from the darkness may feel a certain way because we are still have the flesh, but we still rejoice because it has been brought to the light to recognize it ("love rejoices with the truth/whenever the truth wins out"-1 Corinthians 13:5), and it has also been taken cared of by Christ, and we can repent and move on joyfully. Amen!
Wow, what a great God. All to show you how much He loves you and how much He wants a relationship with you. Just you. Nothing else matters but You and Him, together.
Jesus loves you very much and He will show you that everyday.
I feel like the Lord is teaching me lately about not working so hard.
I'm not saying that one shouldn't work...but I'm saying, in the story of Martha and Mary in Luke 10:38-42, I can officially introduce myself as...Martha.
So hi, I'm Martha. No, not from the Brady Bunch, just good 'ol Martha, from the Biblical.....Bunch...
I won't lie, this transition is not a smooth one, but by God's grace, I'm learning.
One area pertaining to working played out in front of me recently:
My mom got a tape measure to measure her waist. She was holding it in her hand and said to me that she was told that it was good to start measuring 2 cm from the belly button.
She decided to take a guess of where 2 cm was by using her hand. Eventually she said, okay, I'll just estimate.
I watched her and said, "how about using the tape measure in your hand to measure 2 cm?"
She didn't get it at first and then she started laughing and realized that she could've just done that from the beginning.
It reminded me of the story of the Widow's Oil in 2 Kings 4:10.
Elisha heard the cry of the lady: "Your servant my husband is dead, and you know that he revered the Lord. But now his creditor is coming to take my two boys as his slaves.”
Elisha responded: “How can I help you? Tell me, what do you have in your house?”
The lady said, “Your servant has nothing there at all, except a small jar of olive oil.”
Elisha tells the lady to go around asking the neighbors for empty jars. He tells her to pour the oil in the jars until they are filled.
When all the jars were filled, the oil stopped. She told Elisha, and he instructed her to sell the oil, to pay her debts, and that her and her sons could live on what was left.
So what's the connection between my mom and the Widow's oil?
Well, both of them had something in front of them that they could use in order to profit.
God has already placed something in front of you for profit, He has already given you a gift, an instrument, a book, a person, talent...etc. just something or even things, in order for you to use.
I was trying to go around me and I would think, "okay, so, next task I have to do is this and that!" and I would be so tired and warned out! Not a good idea!
Of course we have to be hard workers, but if God has given you the resources, (even if it's a "little bit" like the oil) we can be sure enough to rest that when we take hold of it, He will supply us with the direction, process, and we can start to see more coming out when we invest in the little that we have.
He never intends for us to be burned out, worried, and warned out about nothing, when really He can do it all for us!
For me, what's in front of me is the Word of God.
I feel like that's my starting point :-)
How about you?
What's your starting point?
Why don't you pray and ask God what's in front of you so you can start taking advantage of the great things He has given you!
Remember that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.
Jesus feeds the five thousand.
Jesus feeds the five thousand in Matthew 14: 13 - 21.
"We have only five loaves of bread and two fish," they answered.
"Bring them here to me," He said.
They all ate and were satisfied, and the disciples picked up twelve basketfuls of broken pieces that were left over. The number of those who ate was about five thousand men, besides women and children.
I cried out to God today, life had been so rough for me.
As I walked He reminded me of this story, and said, "remember the five thousand..."
Jesus fed five thousand people out of five loaves of bread and two fish.
You see, some weeks ago, I had to come to Him in repentance of some sins, and I was so lost, I was so lost without Him.
My life had taken a different turn, and I couldn't do it without Him.
With tendencies to try to live life "perfectly", I knew He wanted me to realize that I couldn't work for my salvation and that it was already done for at the cross:
"But now He has appeared once and for all at the end of the ages to do away with sin by the sacrifice of Himself." Hebrews 9:26b
Where does the story of the five loaves of bread come into this?
Jesus said, "come to Me all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." Matthew 11:28
That's for everyone.
He said He wanted me to come to Him, that He is able to feed me.
He didn't say to me, "Tawana, come to me when you have cleaned up your act." No, He said, "Just as you are, just as you are crying, just as you are."
I felt like I had to have this cleaned up heart, this cleaned up act before I prayed to Him, but that's not what He wants.
He came to die for a reason, so we wouldn't have to work for our salvation or work to gain His approval. It can only be a lie from the devil to think that we can attain some right standing with God in one way or another for it says,
"God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in Him we might become the righteousness of God." 2 Corinthians 5:21
The story of Jesus feeding the five thousand with five loaves made sense to me now:
I can come to Him with the little that I have and say, "Jesus, this is all I have, this is all I have, take it from me please, take it," and He will change it. He will change it.
If it's something bad I'm giving to Him, He'll wash it away, He'll wash it away, He is able.
If it's something good that I'm giving Him , He will multiply it, He will give me the amount that I need, He's so generous.
"They all ate and were satisfied, and the disciples picked up twelve basketfuls of broken pieces that were left over..." Matthew 14: 20
"But He said to me, 'My Grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weakness, so that Christ's power may rest on me...For when I am weak, then I am strong" -2 Corinthians 12:9 - 10
God wants you to come to Him with all of your problems, your situations. He doesn't want you to be working for your salvation or to think that you can attain anything. He is the only one who can fix them for you and do it for you.
Don't be embarrassed about coming to Him, He wants you to know that He cares for you and nothing is too big or too bad for Him to take. He is, in fact, God.
And He loves you and wants you to come close to Him.
Genesis 1:1-2 says, "In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. Now the earth was formless and empty, darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering over the waters."
There was nothing desirable to be seen in the world. The earth was formless and empty, just like us.
Darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering over the waters.
It goes against God's nature for Him to create such a world, so we assume that from the first sentence something happened in the earth for it to get that way (as we later read, satan was already a fallen angel and kicked out of eden so he was probably roaming around destroying things as usual).
We're like that description. We're like that before God enters our life. Satan took us and trashed us, he used us and "destroyed us..."
...but know that God's Spirit is hovering you.
He wants you.
He wants you and wants to complete you.
Now you might be wondering, why doesn't He just complete me then?
Well, in the same heart beat, He can, but He wants you to accept that invitation, to say yes.
Will you let Him into your house? Will you let Him enter?
The enemy forced himself a long time ago, very ungentleman-like right? But we have a God who's knocking, and asking.
All I know is that He wants to put Light in you. And Light will create a pathway for so more...
Say yes to God.
Jesus loves you very much.
Wow it's been a while!
God's been doing great things and He is so faithful!
I just want to let you know that whatever God's doing in your life, He is going to bless it! Amen!
So today I was scanning through my journal and I stopped at when I wrote down Genesis 3:11 and right away the title "who are you listening to" came to me.
Friend, who are you listening to?
Are you listening to somebody else today who's not God's voice?
Are you listening to someone who isn't a voice to be trusted?
God's telling you to stop right now. Right now.
Genesis 3:11 says, "who told you that you were naked? Have you EATEN from the TREE that I COMMANDED you not to eat from?"
What are you eating?
Are you eating from television? From videos? From celebrities?
Are you eating from people who God says 'no' to?
It's time to re-assess who you spend time with.
These "things" will benefit you for a while, but in the long run, they'll destroy you.
Don't believe the lies of the enemy. The enemy is INDIRECTLY telling you to 'stop right now' that your purpose isn't good enough, and that YOU'RE not good enough.
Tell him that you are, tell Him that God loves you and that you are good enough. Tell him that God's gifts and CALLING are irrevocable (Romans 11:29), so we can CHOOSE to STOP right now and make a u-turn and head back to God. Tell him you can do it without the lies and that you don't need momentary pleasures. Amen.
The enemy has a plan for you, just as GOD has a plan for you, but we have to CHOOSE whom we're LISTENING to.
God loves you very much and wants to see you prosper, but for now, please ask yourself:
Who are you listening to?
God bless you.
"For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them." -Matthew 18:20
I don't want to give you false hope and say that everything will work out in 2 seconds flat, but it WILL work out and you WILL be freed.
The length of time solely depends on how much is needed to be done (i.e. how many soul ties you have) or how strong they are, and other details that pertain to your life. Of course I never discount God's miraculous healing at any time and any amount, so all I'll say is: wait in expectation, a great thing is about to happen.
I mentioned the above verse because I STRONGLY advise you to:
1. JOIN with 2 or 3 other people to PRAY.
I pray that you seek godly counsel. People of prayer, people who are MATURE in Christ and know about the spiritual realm and are fully CONTENT in helping you BREAK the chains. If you go with someone who's not fully involved in helping you, it's not going to really be a battle, so you need people who are going to fight with you in the spiritual realm.
I encourage you to seek people you TRUST, but if you don't know anybody yet, ask your pastor about the prayer team, and their gifting if necessary, and also pray for God to lead you to the right people.
2. Be OPEN with those people. They need to know everything. They will help you IDENTIFY what is in your life that needs to be taken out (e.g. if it's a spirit of greed or a generational curse etc.) It doesn't matter how humiliating or scarring it might've been, there's nothing that Jesus hasn't heard about and that He doesn't' know about and didn't die for, He's ready to hear you say it and come to Him for healing. Also in this case, if they're going to help you break the soul ties and move on, you'd have to confess any activity you might've done, or what was done to you and so forth, out loud. It might lead to a lot of forgiveness as well and proclaiming all these things, but it has to be spoken out loud. These people will be praying for you and with you whilst you do this so you can break the chains.
It might seem like the first two would've done it all, but if let's say the people spend an hour with you, you'd still need to go back and talk to God. It's now more about anticipating a breakthrough in your life. I would STRONGLY suggest three days fasting (morning to 5 or 6pm), but like I said, it also depends on your conviction as well.
4. Exchange other things for PRAYER.
It will be time to sacrifice.
I once read that in order for you to know that you're being deceived or that things are not in line, you'd have to be so FILLED with the light that you can IDENTIFY what's NOT of light. It might take time, but start filling yourself with light and also reading about the area you're going through (e.g. how break soul ties or how they are formed etc.) Get knowledgeable about it because one day God's going to use you to help somebody else.
5. MOVE ON.
Literary move on. You're ready for a new life. No more connections with the past. Clean your room, clean your closet, clean your boxes. It's time to get rid of all things that come from those soul ties. It's time to move on.
When I think of this part, what comes to mind is Luke 17:32.
Luke 17:32 has one line and it says: "Remember Lot's wife!"
Now, you know that if there's an exclamation mark it means something. It's very important that you remember her.
If you don't know the story, Lot, and his wife were escaping Sodom and Gomorroh which was a place full of sin and God had rained down burning sulfur to destroy it. God told them that whatever they did, NOT to look back. Lot's wife, looked back, and she turned into a PILLAR of SALT (Genesis 19:26).
Remember Lot's wife.
Don't look back.
Once you're done, you're done. You might be "tempted" to go back there, but don't look back. If you want an accountability partner, I encourage you to get one, otherwise keep praying for God to take that urge away and any pull as it was a soul tie that needed removing.
It later on says in that passage: if you CLING to your LIFE, you will LOSE it, and if you let your life GO, you will SAVE it (v.33)
Jesus want's to take it all from you. He wants to save you. It's a process, but it is one that is worth it.
God bless you in your process and journey of removing soul ties! God wants to see you healed and He loves you very much! I'll be praying for you as well.
God bless you!
In Christ we pray,
Is a girl who fell deeply in love with Jesus,