"love is not a fight but it's something worth fighting for"
So, in Part I of 'Saying I'm Sorry', we spoke about marriage and we also spoke about saying 'I'm sorry,' in that particular context. It was seen that we first say 'sorry' to Our Father, who knows us. I'd like to say, Thank the LORD that He STILL LOVES US even though He knows the very depths and darkness of our hearts. Isn't that reason ALONE to apologize to HIM FIRST? If anything, He should be the only One,
….but we still have reality to deal with. =) =)
We also spoke about how your wife or husband may be upset with you for something you did, and so the next step is apologizing to them. With that said, it will take courage, but saying 'I'm sorry' in that aspect, is the first step to reconciling with them.
Other Steps Include:
1. As you are now clean before God, go BACK to God, to ask for the next steps. HE will tell you what your next steps are. Sit before Him and wait for His answer as you are restoring your position or your marriage.
2. I would encourage you to watch the movie 'Fireproof' (2008), directed by Alex Kendrick. I highly recommend it as its worth your time. I believe that this is an investment that can truly impact your life. You can also buy 'The Love Dare Book', which you'll also see is in association with the movie. Go through the book and be intentional about it. This situation is of course between you and God, so see as fit, and according to the Holy Spirit's guidance.
3. Go out and love your wife, your children, whom ever has been hurt from this.
Also see what the needed steps are. What practical steps do you ensure that it doesn't happen again? Will you be chatting with so-and-so online? Ask yourself these questions, journal these out maybe. It's good to be prepared and ready to give an answer to not only yourself, but your significant other to show that you have thought about how to improve. As said before, overall, it will be more of a concerted effort for the resolution, but doing your part is also a start, and a very big start.
4. As you do this, you may think that nothing is happening or they don't believe you've 'changed that fast', well, that's where God plays HIS part. TRUST Him to change their hearts and to bless you both as you continue this process of moving on. God has so much in store for you guys.
Don't give up. You'll get there, just don't give up.
6. It's worth fighting for. Remember your ministry. Remember your start. Remember the good times. Remember why you fell in love in the first place. God's got it. Just trust in Him.
I once heard someone say, "the end of me is the beginning of God". I know that you may be sick of this, you're tied down and don't have the time…but it's in these moments when we throw our hands up in the air that God takes us up into His arms, and gives us wings to fly instead. So stand strong and never give up, it's worth fighting for. Marriage is a gift from God. <3
Remember, if it were the other way round in your situation, you'd be worth fighting for.
Never give up.
I woke up the other day, feeling led to write down the next topic for the the blog. I felt that there was a stronghold on marriages in a particular city. I pray that strongholds may be broken in that city, in Jesus' Name (I also encourage you to pray for marriages all around the world in Jesus Name). The other point was the general sense of those who were failing to say, 'I'm Sorry'.
I pondered these things, and asked the Lord what He wanted me to write, but at first only got the notion that He wanted to say that people need to start saying 'sorry' (as we know, it's often more of a pride element when we don't acknowledge what we've done and then apologize).
Later on in the day, I thought of the song, 'Sorry Seems To Be The Hardest Word' by Blue & Elton John.
The lyrics say:
"What do I do to make you want me?
What have I got to do to be heard?
What do I say when it's all over?
And sorry seems to be the hardest word"
Sometimes we don't need to do a whole lot of STUFF to impress someone (Emphasis on sometimes. Let's apply things to our own situations instead! Lol!). Or sometimes we can try to "figure it out" or fix it on our own. Instead, sorry, would be what is needed in that circumstance, at least as a genuine start. The actions and "figuring it out" can follow after. Let me tell you a little secret: collaborative effort is always best. Never try to do it on your own as if the person doesn't exist and will exist when you figure it all out. Just say sorry and then with God's help, move on to the next step. =)
Now, you might be saying, "Grr! So what if that person doesn't want to hear what I have to say!?"
The song identifies with that aspect, noting:
"It's sad, so sad
Why can't we talk it over?"
As said above, sometimes when we've hurt someone and want to say 'sorry', or have said 'sorry', they might not want to hear it or want to talk about it any more because of the hurt. Instead they may need time, and want to see actions.
"So what do I do in the mean time? Sing this sad song?" :) No. But thank God for Redemption. Thank God it starts with Him. =) Like David, who humbled himself and went to God: "Against you, you only, have I sinned…"-Psalm 51:4 …we go to that place, and talk with God.
Side Note: Once we are forgiven, it is FINISHED. In other words, God remembers it no more. That means, any time after that, if you're still reminded of that sin, then its either our flesh, or the devil. Solutions? Well, there are many, but we take steps to make sure it doesn't come to our mind over and over by using Scripture, and also taking practical steps (more on this in Part II, coming soon!).
Remember that we are promised once and for all that: "there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus" -Romans 8:1
Thus, just like David did in his redemption process, GET UP AND WALK.
Continue and sin no more by the Power of the Holy Spirit.
God's with you all the way. Don't give up.
Joshua 8: 1-2 "Then the Lord said to Joshua, "Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. Take the whole army with you, and go up and attack Ai. For I have delivered into your hands the king of Ai, his people, his city and his land. You shall do to Ai and its king as you did to Jericho and its king, except that you may carry off their plunder and livestock for yourselves. Set an ambush behind the city." (Emphasis mine).
Have you ever wanted to do something and the Lord says to you, 'wait'. Or, 'not yet'?
A while ago, I wrote about how during the wait, God's doing something significant that we may not be seeing with our natural eye.
Sometimes we may think that because it's taking so long or because we don't see what we are thinking it should be like, that its reason to settle for something less, but we all know that that's not what God wants for our lives, He wants to give us His best. We know that there are many reasons He asks us to wait, but because we are His child, waiting is for our benefit, and it creates opportunity for a new thing in our lives, and all to the glory of God. Amen.
I had the opportunity to read this verse in the Book of Joshua.
This verse became important after reading Chapters 6 and 7, which I recommend you read as well to get the full context.
Briefly, in Chapters 6 and 7, the Lord had told Joshua that he had delivered Jericho into his hands (i.e. given him the city). He was then commanded to march around the city once with all the armed men, for 6 days. On the 7th day, they were to march around the city 7 times. In Joshua 6:18 the Lord says to Joshua to keep away from the devoted things as it would bring trouble. Later in Chapter 7 we see that a guy named Achan had hopped on along and taken that which was devoted, when it wasn't the time to.
We know it wasn't the time to take these ''good things'' from the land yet, as in Chapter 8, from what the Lord says to Joshua after He tells him to go into another city: "Do not be afraid, do not be discouraged.... You shall do to Ai and its kind as you did to Jericho (the place of the previous battle), except that you may carry off their plunder and livestock for yourselves..." (Joshua 8:1-2).
The New Living Translation says, "But this time you may keep the plunder and livestock for yourselves...."
But this time...
This time. The event of going into another city had occurred before, but it was this time, it was thee time. This particular time. Outside of that time was the wrong time.
Waiting. It can be a tough one eh?
We all make mistakes and may do something we're not supposed to at the appointed time. Even if you're a leader, you're going to make mistakes. It's just about being real with yourself and not allowing yourself or others put you on an untouchable pedestal. It's about how we handle it after the mistake that counts, i.e. did we learn something, did we grow from it? Are we getting closer to God now because of it? Are we now ready to do what God's asking us to do? etc.
I've already told you about how I started this whole website and went ahead of God, put all these sections to the website and I was all super jolly about it, only to have Him ask me to only start with one blog post. *Ouch* :) I smile about it now, but yes it was majorly humbling at the time. I can only boast in the Lord: but since then, I've never had to sit down and think: "what is the next blog post going to be?" but more of waiting on God until He told me what to say next; He's had the lead. It's a waiting process as well because I would sometimes see other sites doing 'more' stuff or had more sections, but had to wait on God's voice, and then proceed. Not only that, but we don't know other people's story or journey as they did their work, so it's unfair to judge by what the human eye can see. Amen. :)
God's timing is so perfect, when you see it happening, you'll be so content that you'll forget about past experiences or wonder why you went ahead before! He has it all under control.
Waiting on God teaches us to submit to Him, and to let Him take the lead.
This time, the Israelites had the joy (hallelujah!) of carrying the plunder and livestock, as the Lord said they could do. You too, will be able to enjoy what He's asking you to do. He had opened the door to enjoy this wonderful gift.
Let's remember that when God says 'not yet', it's 'not yet'. When He says 'go', 'go'. There's a time for everything :)
So here are the questions: Is the Lord telling you to go? Is He telling you that NOW is the right time? Enter the doors to which He is telling you to go. Why don't you have a nice heart to heart with the Lord tonight? He's with you all the way, as He's leading you to go where you wants you to go. Amen!
"...How often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were not willing" (NIV) - Matthew 23:37
“..How often would I have gathered your children together as a hen gathers her brood under her wings, and you were not willing!" (ESV) Matthew 23:37
Prayer: Lord, you are a marvelous! Show me what you are saying to me in this verse. In Jesus' Name I pray, Amen!
What a verse! It's amazing how God continually shows us through Scripture how loving and kind hearted He is.
The thing is, fam, if we wanted to paint a picture of God as this big-mean guy waiting to say something or be mean to us, we'll definitely find it when we read Scripture because we'll be picking out what we want to see.
There are two things I'd love to share with you before we start:
1. Please read my last article about Scripture being God-breathed. There, I encouraged you to start reading the Word like a love letter. God is for you and not against you!
2. Also, when you read, pray first and ask God and the Holy Spirit to come lead you, help you, and to speak to you (i.e. give you revelation). We do have a flesh so sometimes we can go to Scripture and interpret it in our own way, when really all God is showing us is that He loves us. I guess my point here is this: be faith-based, not fear-based when you read the Bible. Each time I head to Scripture and it's something that brings fear, I'm like..hmmm okay God, this feeling is not from you, i.e. I'm not interpreting this right, you are not here to condemn me / put me down / this isn't your nature so I'll ask You about it instead. Like I said last time, if there is any discipline from our Abba, He does so in a loving and kind way. He is a God of grace, doing so to help you, and to build you up.
K! Now onto the message!
I have to confess, I felt like this really needed to be said. I felt a heavy burden to tell people that God loves them very much and wanted them to know that He is a gentle God. God hears you when you cry out to Him.
This verse is one out of a ton that demonstrates God's nature.
The Savior is always showing His tender love to us.
Tender means showing gentleness and concern or sympathy.
He is gentle, tender and sympathetic with us. He empathizes with us when we hurt. He is not here to hurt us or condemn us.
Looking at the definition of tender, the dictionary also defined it as 'not rough'.
Jesus is not rough.
If anything, He is the most gentle person you will ever know.
Think of Someone who was pushed in a crowd, touched, used, abused, and still in the end lay there saying no harsh words or continued with what He promised to do.
That's the awesome God we serve. :)
Also, remember when Paul continued walking and got back up in Acts 14:19-20? Paul was telling the people in Lystra that God never left Himself without testimony. Some Jews came and stoned Paul. They even dragged him outside the city, thinking he was dead - it was brutal. But what did Paul do? He got back up and went back into the city, and the next day he and Barnabas left for Derbe (another city).
Those were qualities of Jesus. That was Jesus in Paul!
We know it's Jesus because no one in their carnal mind would ever get stoned and STILL get back up and continue the work of spreading the message of Jesus Christ! It's a miracle! We praise the Lord!
It's stuff like this that's all around us.
There are qualities of Jesus all around you. He manifests Himself to you in every way possible to show you kindness, and love. He manifests Himself to show you that He is capable, He is able, He is yours and His promises are so true and will never stop demonstrating them to you. And that includes comfort - comforting you.
Allow God's tender Hands to let the eyes of your heart be opened.
Dear child, stop hurting.
Jesus wants to show you that He loves you and He cares for you and that He wants to protect you through it all. He wants to protect you through it all.
Like a hen protects her chicks, the Father protects His, under His glorious wings.
Do you know who your Father is?
He is a gentle God, a gentle God waiting to show you that He loves you.
"Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand" (Isaiah 41:10). Amen
Challenge: For the next 30 days, could you read a verse a day about God's love for you and meditate on it? See what it says and ask God to speak to you through it. :)
Life's circumstances will come and go, but God's love will remain the same. :)
Jesus loves you no matter what.
Song: Listen to: "You Are For Me" - by Kari Jobe
Yesterday we spoke about how God is Sovereign, that Jesus is a Friend who is able to save, and is a Friend that sticks closer than a brother.
Today we'll continue to touch on His sovereignty and how He is there through any storm.
"Your laws endure to this day, for all things serve you" -Psalm 119:91 (Emphasis mine).
All things serve Him.
To endure means to stick through, to remain in existence.
Before this verse, it says, "Your faithfulness continues through all generations; you established the earth, and it endures." Psalm 119:90.
His faithfulness continues through, it says. You see, to go through something is different going by.
If you say to someone "I'll go through it with you", you mean that you will be actively engaging with them in the process, not just being passive. That's what His faithfulness does, it continues through ALL things.
Psalm 119:90 says that He established the earth and it endures, it stands (as opposed to the ever changing things around us).
I remember one time a scientist gave his opinion by saying that he was amazed at how the earth was positioned and that he if it were to move an inch to any side, he believed it would disrupt the formation of the earth, planets etc.
Whether his claim was true or not, one thing I know is that scientists can't fully scientifically explain away all the reasons of how the earth is where it is, how it's position is there, how it is sustained (yes, we know gravity...but you know what I mean). They can calculate how the earth is held up, or that if it moves an inch, it could fall down...but even if we had ALL the calculations, GOD is still in control.
Remember how I posted about how God knows when one sparrow is about to go down?
*light bulb moment* Yea..I know.
Imagine for us, how much more for us, who are created in His image! How much more!! Amen!
Know that God is sovereign over all, and He loves us very so very much.
Because of the Lord's great promises, we can endure until the end.
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Fam, I have a question. Do you think God sustains you?
To be sovereign means to have unlimited control over all.
I'm currently learning about God's Sovereignty, and how Sovereign He is over all. I can't remember the exact moment that prompted it, but it was some time during the oh so fabulous storm I went through, which taught me to just seek out God in terms of knowing that He truly is Sovereign and that I did not need to fear.
I had written on my Facebook page some time during that time, that nothing created could limit God, nor His plan/purpose for our life.
God created all things, so how can anything possibly overcome Him? And we are His aren't we? So if we are His, how can anything possibly overcome us with the power that is within us?
Didn't death lose it's sting centuries ago?
It lost it's sting.
I feel like someone needs to be encouraged about this, and so do I! :)
Sometimes we forget that God has power. Unlimited power. Sovereignty, rule over all things.
I say this because we're human, and we go through life, often forgetting whose we are, needing to be reminded over and over again...but that's life, isn't it?
So here's another reminder, family:
He's in control.
"In Him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of Him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of His will." -Ephesians 1:11 (Emphasis mine).
The verse says ''for the purpose of His will"...it's HIS Will, and HIS plan, so He's in control.
We are also promised that:
"The Son is the radiance of God's glory and the exact representation of His being, sustaining all things by His powerful word. After He had provided purification for sins, He sat down at the right Hand of the Majesty in Heaven." Hebrews 1:3 (Emphasis mine).
To sustain is to strengthen or support physically or mentally.
Fam, do you think God sustains you?
To sustain is to also bear the weight without breaking or falling.
I said, it is to bear the weight. Without breaking, or falling.
Hebrews 1:3 also mentions how Jesus is the exact representation of God. They are One.
That's how Sovereign God is.
He is able to come to earth, conquer death, and rise on the third day so He could break the curse, and call us His own.
He wants us to trust Him, know Him, not just every day, but every moment of the day that we're in as well.
It also says that He sustains all things by His powerful word (i.e. His command, His voice)
Fam, His commands, his word sustains all things.
Philippians 3:20-21 says that "Our citizenship is in heaven. And we eagerly await a Savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ, who by the power that enables Him to bring everything under His control, will transform our lowly bodies so that they will be like His glorious body." (Emphasis mine).
"So how is Jesus able to save me?" you ask?
See, He, (Jesus) is able to do what the above verse says because He is the exact representation of God, and thus He has been given the power that can bring everything under His control.
Note, it says that "by the power that enables Him to..."
Key word: Enables.
There is a story about the paralytic in Mark 2:1-12 where Jesus tells the paralytic: "Son, your sins are forgiven."
After He says that, the pharisees think in their hearts: "Why does this fellow talk like that? He’s blaspheming! Who can forgive sins but God alone?”
It then says, "Immediately Jesus knew in his Spirit that this was what they were thinking in their hearts, and he said to them,“Why are you thinking these things? Which is easier: to say to this paralyzed man, ‘Your sins are forgiven,’ or to say, ‘Get up, take your mat and walk’?" -Mark 2:8-9
In those days, it was possible for people to "perform" (for a lack of a better word) healing practices, but it would have been an abomination for someone to go around saying, "you are forgiven" because it would mean that they were implying that they were God.
You see, If Jesus was not the Son of God, He would not have been given (enabled to have) the power to heal by God's grace. Jesus showed that not only was He able to forgive the man's sins, but AFTER he forgave Him, He could still miraculously heal him because His Father had enabled Him to do it.
Right after verse 10, it says, "But I want you to know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins.” So he said to the man, “I tell you, get up, take your mat and go home.” He got up, took his mat and walked out in full view of them all. This amazed everyone and they praised God, saying, “We have never seen anything like this!” Mark 2:10-12 (Emphasis mine).
My point is this: Jesus, being One with God, is our Savior at all times, and He has the authority on earth, which mirrors Philippians 3:21 where it says, that He also has the power that enables Him to bring everything under His control.
His Sovereignty is powerful. My friends, it is powerful, powerful indeed.
Side note for those needing extra encouragement :)
The other day, I prayed and heard God say, "Best Friends."
Remember that He is our Friend, a Friend that sticks closer than a brother. So no matter what, through the highs and lows, He is there, sticking closer than a brother.
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3. If you have some time, please check out this lovely lyric video of a lovely song by Francesca Battistelli. Speak to your Abba and say, "Lord, Write your story on my heart..I surrender to You, let your Will be done, I'm all Yours Abba, All yours. Amen :-) "
"And you also were included in Christ when you head the Word of Truth, the Gospel of your Salvation. Having believed in Him you were marked in Him with a seal, the Promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession –to the praise of His glory." Ephesians 1:13 -14
Fam, the battles will come and go, and the enemy will try to tell you that 'you're not Saved' or 'you're alone in all this', and any other lie that he can conjure up to help you lose hope. But we know that there is always hope. In Christ Jesus, there is always hope. Amen.
We are promised in His Mighty Word, of who we are, and WHOSE we are. He shows us when we're lost, and when we are tired, that we are His, Predestined, Saved, Loved, and having believed in Him, MARKED, for life. Not for now, but life. WE are His :) Amen!
"He chose us in Him before the creation of the world, to be holy and blameless in His sight." Ephesians 1:4
He chose us in Him, and in Him alone.
"In LOVE He predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ, in accordance with His pleasure and will" -Ephesians 1:5.
When people are adopted, it is impossible to un-adopt them. It's not even legal to do that.
Adoption means that He can't give us up. Ever.
So you think, why isn't He here then?
I assure you, He also hears your cries.
"The Lord is King for ever and ever, the nations will perish from His land. You hear, O Lord, the desire of the afflicted; you encourage them, and you listen to their cry, defending the fatherless and the oppressed, in order that man, who is of the earth, may terrify no more" Psalm 10:16-18
You are protected. Your Father is your protector, your voice, your portion and your strength.
I had been through a storm, and my Abba wanted to remind me that I was His, and I need not believe the lies of the enemy. At times we may not feel Him, but He is still there. It's not based on feelings, but really knowing who our Abba is. Who He says He is, and how He faithfully continues to show us this by reaching out to us everyday. During a storm we can often forget this because we are caught up in the moment.
As I read this verse the other day, I felt my Abba say to me: "I adopted you when you were 19"
(As some of you may know, I became a Christian at 19).
Friend, you were forever welcomed into the family of God when you became a Christian, the heavens celebrated like no other, and nothing, no one, no circumstance, can ever take that way. Remember whose you are and that you are forever is.
"I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one will snatch them out of my hand"
Is a girl who fell deeply in love with Jesus,