What powerful words!!! :)
I randomly went on Meagan Good's instagram today and saw this quote and I thought, 'This is powerful truth!!" Amen! :)
Maybe you've been feeling like you need to be like somebody else in order to be liked, or that you need to be something else to be liked, but you feel like it's not really you, it's somebody else. You may feel like people like somebody else more but don't like you.
Don't compare yourself. People are not meant to be liked based on who they want to be like, but based on who they already are.
1 Corinthians 12:12-30 touches on this perfectly. It talks about how we are one body, but many parts. I encourage you to do a Bible Study on it! :)
To some extent, comparisons stem from wanting to be like somebody else, but not ourselves, and comparing ourselves with others.
This text talks about how the body is actually a unit (verse 12).
A unit is defined as: "as individual thing or person regarded as single and complete but which can also form an individual component of a larger or more complex whole" (Oxford American Dictionary).
We were meant to be whole as an individual in Christ, and in that, to be a part of a joint and vital component of a more complex whole :)
We all have one and the same Spirit (verse 13). Praise God He doesn't give 100% of the Spirit to some and 20% to others when He "doesn't feel like it" haha! We're all whole and one in Christ.
Now, what does that look like in the physical world? Well, we are human, so comparing ourselves will occur, but it's making sure we don't make this our focus and pursuit (i.e. our worldly pursuit).
Verse 15 says, what if the foot said, "Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body", and verse 17 asks us what if the whole body became an eye where the sense of hearing be.
Friend, where would the sense of smell be if the body were a big 'ol ear?
Getting the picture now? :) :) ;-) Ok. So...
Know that we are made with significance, carefully crafted to be who we are, along with the role that we play. We are not insignificant.
Verses 22-26 may answers that notion:
"On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has combined the members of the body and has given greater honor to the parts that lacked it, so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it."
Amen. Did you read that? If ONE PART. ONE. ONE. ONE. ONEEEE part SUFFERS, EVERY PART SUFFERS WITH IT.
You are significant and you may not know it yet if you're still comparing yourself with others :) ;-)
You are important.
I'll leave you with my favorite part of the passage:
"But in fact God has arranged the parts in the body, every one of them, just as He wanted them to be." (verse 18).
I find this beautiful and inspiring because it says, "as HE wanted them to be." not as XYZ wanted them to be, but HE. He arranged them all perfectly. You are created perfectly to be who you are, and God created you to be that part, not man, but God (and we know that God is sovereign, so He is in control so it wasn't just random). He loves you very much and has not 'forgotten' about you. You are a vital component to the community of God, and you are wanted, just as you are.
So what does the quote at the beginning have to do with this?
Well, if we start liking who we are, and know what our purpose is, we're less likely to compare ourselves to others because we know who we are and whose we are. We will start realizing how wonderfully different yet similar we really are, and with that aspect, will start to wish well on others and not just ourselves :) It's a road and journey we all take together, so let's celebrate each other! Amen! :) Jesus loves you <3
P.S. Next time you are questioning who you are, remember to go back to the original "Manual", the Maker knows who you are, He created you. Reinforce His truths about you over and over so you won't forget who you are in Christ! Or even better, have a heart-to-heart with Him, and ask Him who you are. ;-)
Any questions? Let me know by writing to me here!
When 2 souls are tied (or held together) in the SPIRITUAL realm, they are called "soul ties." If they are tied in a negative way, or restrictive way, they are negative or ungodly soul ties (i.e. from demonic behavior).
I felt a sense of urgency to post about this. I feel like a lot of people have or are creating ungodly soul ties and they are in bondage because of it.
God wants to free you from what you're going through, and He wants to see you through it. He wants to guide you through healthy relationships and healthy dynamics. It will happen according to God's grace.
He wants to let you know that He will see you through it and BE with you if you trust Him.
This is such an important issue and I can't even stress this enough.
Many of us are so unfamiliar with this and it is very important.
UNgodly soul ties are what prevent us from going on in our lives. They prevent us from moving forward. If you ever feel like you are moving along quite fine but then there was a hold on you for some reason, there might (not in ALL cases) be some ungodly soul tie going on, which all relates to some type of demonic activity.
Soul ties can also be different in other ways. Let's look at a few:
1. Sexual relations --> the good kind.
This is between a married couple. Ephesians 5:31 says that a man will leave his father and mother, and shall be JOINED to his wife, and they two shall be ONE flesh. This is the good kind to all you healthily married couples!
For those unmarried, who are you playing "house" with? Who are you "marrying" spiritually, emotionally, and with your body? Who are you bonding with?
2. Sexual relations --> the bad kind.
This is when one has sexual relations with another (even those who are already married are involved when they go outside of their marriage looking for something more).
Under the context of Sexual immorality (-so pay attention!-) 1 Corinthians 6:18 tells us that, "do you know that he who UNITES himself with a prostitute/harlot is ONE with her body? For it is said, The two will become ONE flesh." (v. 16)
I can't stress on this enough. It is so important.
We, as humans, have become accustomed to saying: "it's my body, why can't I do what I want with it?" or "I've been hurt before, so I'm going to get back all the people who've hurt me by sleeping with others," or the VERY famous, "God INVENTED sex, so why can't I have it as I please?"
God's not RESTRICTING you from sex. In fact, sex is a beautiful thing between a healthily married couple as it BONDS them together.
God doesn't want you to get HURT. The devil doesn't want you to know these truths, and wants you in bondage forever.
3. Close relationships
A GOOD example, one that I admire, is from 1 Samuel 18:1 which is the friendship of David and Jonathan. It says, "After David had finished talking with Saul, Jonathan became ONE in Spirit with David, and he loved him as himself."
I have to say, that was an amazing friendship that David and Jonathan had, and for Jonathan to go against evil in his family for a friend was very commendable.
The BAD soul ties that could come from CLOSE relationships is when one starts to IDOLIZE something, to idolize someone. It is important to know that there is a balance between all friendships and relationships.
I was doing some research on this, and on the GreatBibleStudy website, I read about how soul ties can also be made via vows, commitments, and agreements! I didn't know that! And I repented straight away!
You see, I made a promise/vow to someone months ago, and it was a bad soul tie. In breaking that, I tried to figure out what it was that was making me stay connected with them, and I realized it was the vow, the vow was dangerous.
Many of us make ungodly vows, and statements. Many of them are "innocent" or from a good place, and we say them to be nice, but the spirit world has a big paaaarrttttaaayy over them because we'd be giving them PERMISSION to take over those lines.
Ever wonder why words like: "I'll always love you, I'll never leave you, I'll always do this..." have a hold on us? As sweet as it may be, you can't ALWAYS be there, and you can't ALWAYS do anything, unless you're God. Didn't Jesus say, "I'll never leave you or forsake you?" Think about it.
We need to humble ourselves and acknowledge that it is only done by God's grace and His doing. In pride we say these things to keep a hold on another, and we form ties that we end up paying for.
What comes to mind is Proverbs 18:21 which says, "The TONGUE has the power of LIFE and DEATH and those who love it will eat of its fruit."
Have you ever thought of that? Have you ever really thought of that?
This is why ungodly soul ties bring an abuser and their victim back together. You don't even have to be a Christian to know this, but there will be times where you logically know that you need to get away, and so in the NATURAL realm you want to run away and be safe. Then there are times when you are pulled back and you say, "there's just something about them, there's just something that keeps bringing me back." So the victim goes back as it's all they know, and that's because in the SPIRITUAL realm, the unholy soul tie serves as a CONNECTION, a standpoint, a CONTROL point, for the victim to go back to.
It's unlikely that the victim would go back if they didn't have this problem with the soul tie.
You can read on how to BREAK these soul ties.
Keep safe, and keep trusting Christ,
With love always.
God is SO good! I've been doing this online 365-day devotional by Joyce Meyer, and it has really been speaking to me (hence the many references to her as of late!! haha!). She said: "I know God loves me, so I can love what God chooses to love. I don't love everything I do, but I accept myself because God accepts me."
If a PERFECT God, who has NO blemish CHOOSES to love us, why can't we start to see ourselves in the same light He does?
I believe that we are meant to love ourselves (obviously not in a conceited way)...
"Even when you say i'm not, He says I'm beautiful.
I didn't watch American Idol, but when I heard Candice Glover's song it was really inspiring, and it made me think of how many of us define our beauty by what we see around us or what we hear from people or the media. Curious of who she was, I watched an interview of hers. The presenter asked her who the "he" was, and she said that the audience can take it as a guy who didn't accept them as they were, or as God. I choose to see it as both, and it can also apply at times when anything sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and His truths about us. :)
In 1 Samuel 16:7, when God instructed Samuel to go anoint the next king of Israel, He tells him not to consider [the next king's] APPEARANCE or his height because the He had rejected him [who had those things]. He then says: "The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the OUTWARD appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart."
When we start looking to God as our foundation of beauty, nothing in this world can hinder the truths that rest in us, and when lies do start to enter our lives, we know that we have a resting place to run to, a God who is comforting, reassuring, full of truth, and never changing (Malachi 3:6a "I the Lord do not change).
No matter what they say, YOU are beautiful :)
The other day I was reading about the conditions that would qualify me for a specific fee status for my (God willing) future university. I went through the list of categories, and in category 6 it said "read box 7". I went to box 7 to read about the extra conditions. I started scrolling down the screen to read the other conditions in box 8. After reading from another box and feeling frustrated about the amount of information they required, I was told to stop borrowing from the other box.
You see, the other box was full of things that was meant for another category. If I had started borrowing words and conditions from the other box, I started seeing that I possibly could never fit in the criteria that I was trying to claim.
This got me thinking.
How often do we "borrow" from other people? From other things? Other lifestyles? Other places, events, ideas, seasons?
How many times do we look at another person's life and wish we had what they had, or wished we looked like they did?
What if we understood that being a certain way is perfect for them because they are supposed to fulfill a certain purpose that was tailor made just for them?
I overheard a quote the other day when my mom was watching TV. What was on was the life story of Jane Fonda (who I didn't know of until then), and she mentioned an interesting quote which caught my attention. She said: "We're not meant to be perfect, we're meant to be whole."
It caught my attention because I am usually interested about the different cultures people grow up in and how some aspire to be something that revolves around that culture. So far, I can say that the time when I could most relate to what she was saying about her life story was when I felt the most insecure and thought that I needed to comply to society's definition of who I should be.
Boy did I get it wrong.
We are meant to be whole. But, by who's standards? Cosmo Girl? Seventeen magazine? Johnny who lives down the street? Reality shows?
I threw those ideas out with the other trash I took out when I realized that I was worth much much more than that!
What it self worth? When I looked it up in the dictionary it said: "the sense of one's own value or worth as a person; self-esteem; self-respect."
One thing that truly affected my self worth before accepting Christ was when I allowed certain people to say words to me that eventually resided in my psyche and created an identity out of me.
I was called names, brought down, abused in ways that I never thought people who "loved me" could ever do. As a child, I was pretty helpless and I didn't know that this was truly abnormal.
My answer? Well, I was under the illusion that I had no worth, that I didn't want to live my life anymore, and I was useless in this world. At that time I also thought, "surely if those who claim to "love me" call me names and make me feel like my existence & worth is absolutely nothing, then there is no reason to live this life."
But that wasn't God's conclusion for my life...
Is a girl who fell deeply in love with Jesus,