"love is not a fight but it's something worth fighting for"
So, in Part I of 'Saying I'm Sorry', we spoke about marriage and we also spoke about saying 'I'm sorry,' in that particular context. It was seen that we first say 'sorry' to Our Father, who knows us. I'd like to say, Thank the LORD that He STILL LOVES US even though He knows the very depths and darkness of our hearts. Isn't that reason ALONE to apologize to HIM FIRST? If anything, He should be the only One,
….but we still have reality to deal with. =) =)
We also spoke about how your wife or husband may be upset with you for something you did, and so the next step is apologizing to them. With that said, it will take courage, but saying 'I'm sorry' in that aspect, is the first step to reconciling with them.
Other Steps Include:
1. As you are now clean before God, go BACK to God, to ask for the next steps. HE will tell you what your next steps are. Sit before Him and wait for His answer as you are restoring your position or your marriage.
2. I would encourage you to watch the movie 'Fireproof' (2008), directed by Alex Kendrick. I highly recommend it as its worth your time. I believe that this is an investment that can truly impact your life. You can also buy 'The Love Dare Book', which you'll also see is in association with the movie. Go through the book and be intentional about it. This situation is of course between you and God, so see as fit, and according to the Holy Spirit's guidance.
3. Go out and love your wife, your children, whom ever has been hurt from this.
Also see what the needed steps are. What practical steps do you ensure that it doesn't happen again? Will you be chatting with so-and-so online? Ask yourself these questions, journal these out maybe. It's good to be prepared and ready to give an answer to not only yourself, but your significant other to show that you have thought about how to improve. As said before, overall, it will be more of a concerted effort for the resolution, but doing your part is also a start, and a very big start.
4. As you do this, you may think that nothing is happening or they don't believe you've 'changed that fast', well, that's where God plays HIS part. TRUST Him to change their hearts and to bless you both as you continue this process of moving on. God has so much in store for you guys.
Don't give up. You'll get there, just don't give up.
6. It's worth fighting for. Remember your ministry. Remember your start. Remember the good times. Remember why you fell in love in the first place. God's got it. Just trust in Him.
I once heard someone say, "the end of me is the beginning of God". I know that you may be sick of this, you're tied down and don't have the time…but it's in these moments when we throw our hands up in the air that God takes us up into His arms, and gives us wings to fly instead. So stand strong and never give up, it's worth fighting for. Marriage is a gift from God. <3
Remember, if it were the other way round in your situation, you'd be worth fighting for.
Never give up.
Joshua 8: 1-2 "Then the Lord said to Joshua, "Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged. Take the whole army with you, and go up and attack Ai. For I have delivered into your hands the king of Ai, his people, his city and his land. You shall do to Ai and its king as you did to Jericho and its king, except that you may carry off their plunder and livestock for yourselves. Set an ambush behind the city." (Emphasis mine).
Have you ever wanted to do something and the Lord says to you, 'wait'. Or, 'not yet'?
A while ago, I wrote about how during the wait, God's doing something significant that we may not be seeing with our natural eye.
Sometimes we may think that because it's taking so long or because we don't see what we are thinking it should be like, that its reason to settle for something less, but we all know that that's not what God wants for our lives, He wants to give us His best. We know that there are many reasons He asks us to wait, but because we are His child, waiting is for our benefit, and it creates opportunity for a new thing in our lives, and all to the glory of God. Amen.
I had the opportunity to read this verse in the Book of Joshua.
This verse became important after reading Chapters 6 and 7, which I recommend you read as well to get the full context.
Briefly, in Chapters 6 and 7, the Lord had told Joshua that he had delivered Jericho into his hands (i.e. given him the city). He was then commanded to march around the city once with all the armed men, for 6 days. On the 7th day, they were to march around the city 7 times. In Joshua 6:18 the Lord says to Joshua to keep away from the devoted things as it would bring trouble. Later in Chapter 7 we see that a guy named Achan had hopped on along and taken that which was devoted, when it wasn't the time to.
We know it wasn't the time to take these ''good things'' from the land yet, as in Chapter 8, from what the Lord says to Joshua after He tells him to go into another city: "Do not be afraid, do not be discouraged.... You shall do to Ai and its kind as you did to Jericho (the place of the previous battle), except that you may carry off their plunder and livestock for yourselves..." (Joshua 8:1-2).
The New Living Translation says, "But this time you may keep the plunder and livestock for yourselves...."
But this time...
This time. The event of going into another city had occurred before, but it was this time, it was thee time. This particular time. Outside of that time was the wrong time.
Waiting. It can be a tough one eh?
We all make mistakes and may do something we're not supposed to at the appointed time. Even if you're a leader, you're going to make mistakes. It's just about being real with yourself and not allowing yourself or others put you on an untouchable pedestal. It's about how we handle it after the mistake that counts, i.e. did we learn something, did we grow from it? Are we getting closer to God now because of it? Are we now ready to do what God's asking us to do? etc.
I've already told you about how I started this whole website and went ahead of God, put all these sections to the website and I was all super jolly about it, only to have Him ask me to only start with one blog post. *Ouch* :) I smile about it now, but yes it was majorly humbling at the time. I can only boast in the Lord: but since then, I've never had to sit down and think: "what is the next blog post going to be?" but more of waiting on God until He told me what to say next; He's had the lead. It's a waiting process as well because I would sometimes see other sites doing 'more' stuff or had more sections, but had to wait on God's voice, and then proceed. Not only that, but we don't know other people's story or journey as they did their work, so it's unfair to judge by what the human eye can see. Amen. :)
God's timing is so perfect, when you see it happening, you'll be so content that you'll forget about past experiences or wonder why you went ahead before! He has it all under control.
Waiting on God teaches us to submit to Him, and to let Him take the lead.
This time, the Israelites had the joy (hallelujah!) of carrying the plunder and livestock, as the Lord said they could do. You too, will be able to enjoy what He's asking you to do. He had opened the door to enjoy this wonderful gift.
Let's remember that when God says 'not yet', it's 'not yet'. When He says 'go', 'go'. There's a time for everything :)
So here are the questions: Is the Lord telling you to go? Is He telling you that NOW is the right time? Enter the doors to which He is telling you to go. Why don't you have a nice heart to heart with the Lord tonight? He's with you all the way, as He's leading you to go where you wants you to go. Amen!
Yesterday we spoke about how God is Sovereign, that Jesus is a Friend who is able to save, and is a Friend that sticks closer than a brother.
Today we'll continue to touch on His sovereignty and how He is there through any storm.
"Your laws endure to this day, for all things serve you" -Psalm 119:91 (Emphasis mine).
All things serve Him.
To endure means to stick through, to remain in existence.
Before this verse, it says, "Your faithfulness continues through all generations; you established the earth, and it endures." Psalm 119:90.
His faithfulness continues through, it says. You see, to go through something is different going by.
If you say to someone "I'll go through it with you", you mean that you will be actively engaging with them in the process, not just being passive. That's what His faithfulness does, it continues through ALL things.
Psalm 119:90 says that He established the earth and it endures, it stands (as opposed to the ever changing things around us).
I remember one time a scientist gave his opinion by saying that he was amazed at how the earth was positioned and that he if it were to move an inch to any side, he believed it would disrupt the formation of the earth, planets etc.
Whether his claim was true or not, one thing I know is that scientists can't fully scientifically explain away all the reasons of how the earth is where it is, how it's position is there, how it is sustained (yes, we know gravity...but you know what I mean). They can calculate how the earth is held up, or that if it moves an inch, it could fall down...but even if we had ALL the calculations, GOD is still in control.
Remember how I posted about how God knows when one sparrow is about to go down?
*light bulb moment* Yea..I know.
Imagine for us, how much more for us, who are created in His image! How much more!! Amen!
Know that God is sovereign over all, and He loves us very so very much.
Because of the Lord's great promises, we can endure until the end.
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Fam, I have a question. Do you think God sustains you?
To be sovereign means to have unlimited control over all.
I'm currently learning about God's Sovereignty, and how Sovereign He is over all. I can't remember the exact moment that prompted it, but it was some time during the oh so fabulous storm I went through, which taught me to just seek out God in terms of knowing that He truly is Sovereign and that I did not need to fear.
I had written on my Facebook page some time during that time, that nothing created could limit God, nor His plan/purpose for our life.
God created all things, so how can anything possibly overcome Him? And we are His aren't we? So if we are His, how can anything possibly overcome us with the power that is within us?
Didn't death lose it's sting centuries ago?
It lost it's sting.
I feel like someone needs to be encouraged about this, and so do I! :)
Sometimes we forget that God has power. Unlimited power. Sovereignty, rule over all things.
I say this because we're human, and we go through life, often forgetting whose we are, needing to be reminded over and over again...but that's life, isn't it?
So here's another reminder, family:
He's in control.
"In Him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of Him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of His will." -Ephesians 1:11 (Emphasis mine).
The verse says ''for the purpose of His will"...it's HIS Will, and HIS plan, so He's in control.
We are also promised that:
"The Son is the radiance of God's glory and the exact representation of His being, sustaining all things by His powerful word. After He had provided purification for sins, He sat down at the right Hand of the Majesty in Heaven." Hebrews 1:3 (Emphasis mine).
To sustain is to strengthen or support physically or mentally.
Fam, do you think God sustains you?
To sustain is to also bear the weight without breaking or falling.
I said, it is to bear the weight. Without breaking, or falling.
Hebrews 1:3 also mentions how Jesus is the exact representation of God. They are One.
That's how Sovereign God is.
He is able to come to earth, conquer death, and rise on the third day so He could break the curse, and call us His own.
He wants us to trust Him, know Him, not just every day, but every moment of the day that we're in as well.
It also says that He sustains all things by His powerful word (i.e. His command, His voice)
Fam, His commands, his word sustains all things.
Philippians 3:20-21 says that "Our citizenship is in heaven. And we eagerly await a Savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ, who by the power that enables Him to bring everything under His control, will transform our lowly bodies so that they will be like His glorious body." (Emphasis mine).
"So how is Jesus able to save me?" you ask?
See, He, (Jesus) is able to do what the above verse says because He is the exact representation of God, and thus He has been given the power that can bring everything under His control.
Note, it says that "by the power that enables Him to..."
Key word: Enables.
There is a story about the paralytic in Mark 2:1-12 where Jesus tells the paralytic: "Son, your sins are forgiven."
After He says that, the pharisees think in their hearts: "Why does this fellow talk like that? He’s blaspheming! Who can forgive sins but God alone?”
It then says, "Immediately Jesus knew in his Spirit that this was what they were thinking in their hearts, and he said to them,“Why are you thinking these things? Which is easier: to say to this paralyzed man, ‘Your sins are forgiven,’ or to say, ‘Get up, take your mat and walk’?" -Mark 2:8-9
In those days, it was possible for people to "perform" (for a lack of a better word) healing practices, but it would have been an abomination for someone to go around saying, "you are forgiven" because it would mean that they were implying that they were God.
You see, If Jesus was not the Son of God, He would not have been given (enabled to have) the power to heal by God's grace. Jesus showed that not only was He able to forgive the man's sins, but AFTER he forgave Him, He could still miraculously heal him because His Father had enabled Him to do it.
Right after verse 10, it says, "But I want you to know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins.” So he said to the man, “I tell you, get up, take your mat and go home.” He got up, took his mat and walked out in full view of them all. This amazed everyone and they praised God, saying, “We have never seen anything like this!” Mark 2:10-12 (Emphasis mine).
My point is this: Jesus, being One with God, is our Savior at all times, and He has the authority on earth, which mirrors Philippians 3:21 where it says, that He also has the power that enables Him to bring everything under His control.
His Sovereignty is powerful. My friends, it is powerful, powerful indeed.
Side note for those needing extra encouragement :)
The other day, I prayed and heard God say, "Best Friends."
Remember that He is our Friend, a Friend that sticks closer than a brother. So no matter what, through the highs and lows, He is there, sticking closer than a brother.
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Hope in the Lord, and He will sustain you.
Psalm 55:22 solemnly appeared at the doorstep of my heart.
I know there must be someone needing this.
I know that there are times when we are waiting for something good, and at times for something bad, like a doctor's report, or a final assignment, and we just don't know what to do.
I wanted to note down a few tips on how to rely on God during the bad times, during the times when you're waiting on something, and you don't know what to do.
The enemy wants you worried and anxious, and he doesn't want you to know that if you did put all your TRUST in God during a rough period, it will only make you stronger in faith AND in deed.
When in a period of uncertainty:
1. FOCUS on Him. The other day I put on my Facebook status: "Continually focusing on something is called mediating. What are YOU focusing on?"
If you think about what you think about, you'll get insight on what you are really focusing on and why are you giving emphasis on the bad areas of your life, instead of the good (which is: "God is faithful, God is true, God is Sustainer, God is all-knowing etc.")
2. MEDITATE on His Word. I really need to make available some of the notebooks that I talked about before and how I just flip it open when I'm either down, thinking about the wrong things, or being attacked by the enemy. It helps a lot. The flesh can be weak at remembering verses sometimes, so if you have a notebook FULL of His TRUTHS, it can then resonate in your mind wherever you are (side note: I like how Pastor T.D. Jakes calls it marinating. He says, think of a good piece of JUICY chicken...-LOL-...you put the spices and good stuff and let it soak into the meat for some time, and THEN you cook it. If you just lay the spices on top and they don't get into the actual meat, you're just going to have a nasty piece of chicken with a beautiful browned top... so true Pastor... #WiseWordsRightThurrr :) So SOAK up in your Bible reading and be JUICY. Study a passage if you want to. A nice place to read would be 2 Chronicles 20:1-30 :)
3. CONSTANTLY COMMUNICATE WITH GOD. Wow, I can't even imagine the place you might be in right now, or the place you might be in one day, but know that God's LISTENING to you.
The other day I just went on and I'm like: "God...I can't do this right now...I feel..etc," and I just told Him how I felt and He just COMFORTED me, I was just SO grateful.
He wants to listen to you.
Tell Him how worried you are, tell Him just how much xyz means to You..He cares.
P.s. Don't forget to ALSO be in PRAISE. He listens to the hard bits, but also listens to your praise, and praise will triumph over anything any day! Amen!
4. SPEND TIME WITH PEOPLE WHO MATTER. At some point, we all need HUMAN contact...lol ;-) I know what it's like to say: "no one will understand me, they won't care so why should I tell them..." and on and on, but you know what, God has shown me to APPRECIATE the people around me, even the ones I don't know. He has shown me that sometimes I don't even have to TELL them ANYTHING, and He will just USE them to comfort me. Hallelujah.
We don't need to go around telling everyone how tough it is right now but you CAN spend time with POSITIVE, UPLIFTING, ENCOURAGING, GENUINE people, and EXPECT GOD to work through them and KNOW & TRUST that He is with you wherever you go.
5. LEAN ON THE COMFORTER. What more can I say...The Comforter is the Amazing Holy Spirit whom we have within us :)
Make Him your Best Friend.
The Holy Spirit gives you words to say, He nudges you when you should take a leap of faith and step out into the unknown, He tells you to pray when you need help and even prays FOR you when you don't know what to say. The Comforter is a Friend for life, so get to know Him :)
God is with you wherever you go.
The devil will come with cheap imitations of what seems to be real. If you're not careful, you'll be the one asking for the cheap imitations out of desperation (check out part 1 of how the Israelites asked for gods when Moses hadn’t returned from the mountain). Don't go that far. We know that our God only gives good gifts, and that He will supply for you.
Friends, Him making you wait is not in vain. He could click His fingers and give you whatever you wished, but He's not a genie. He desires a relationship with you that runs so smoothly that one day, when all of it, or some of it goes away, you won't leave with those things instead of staying with the One who created them.
How sad would it be if you had a friend who you were good to, but then the one time you said ‘no’ to something they left you and never spoke to you again?
You’d feel used, and God doesn’t want to feel used.
He wants you to understand that Him alone is sufficient and enough for you.
The wait won’t be in vain.
Like the story, we see that the Israelites’ true character was revealed and needed to change (the story can be found in Exodus 32). We saw that what was really happening behind the scenes was God dictating the 10 Commandments to Moses to give His people.
We see that these are the 10 Commandments that began something so valuable and foundational. It had to occur so that the Son of Man could come and complete and fulfill it in its entirety. We are so carnal and can’t attain what was brought to us (the law), but the Maker loved (and still loves) us that He wants it to be possible; He wants it to be possible to fulfill His commands, to receive His promises, to reach Him, and to fellowship with Him.
A foundational and monumental act that changed eternity all happened, in the waiting.
How are you going to choose to wait? Are you going to choose to wait for God’s foundational and monumental gifts? Or are you going to beg for cheap substitute figures?
P.s. After writing this post, I saw some other mountains, and I could see their tops. The clouds had finally cleared, and I assure you friend, so will yours.
I saw a mountain with the fog/clouds covering its top. It made me think of when Moses was on the top of the mountain, and the Israelites were waiting upon him
It made me think of how some of us are waiting. We're waiting for something. We're waiting on God to do something, to say something, or to show us something.
The Israelites pondered for a bit, then got frustrated. They then made up their mind that Moses was gone and to never return, so they begged Aaron for a "substitute god" (The story can be read in Exodus 32).
Aaron complied, and built a golden calf for them.
When Moses was still on the mountain, the Lord notified him about how the people had become corrupt: "They have been quick to turn away from what I commanded them and have made themselves an idol cast in the shape of a calf. They have bowed down to it and sacrificed to it and have said, ‘These are your gods, Israel, who brought you up out of Egypt" (verse 8).
Aaron went down and saw the happenings, and it says that his anger burned.
We're all waiting for something, but what will we do while we wait?
Is a girl who fell deeply in love with Jesus,